Finding Life in Your Marriage - Session Two, Part 2
- Sheldon Clowdus
Imagine a red plastic Solo cup. This cup is your soul. It was created to receive life from the Father and pass on that life to the people around you. Your soul was created for life. The problem is sin. Imagine that every time you sin, it is like putting a rock in your cup. Every time someone else sin's against you, they put a rock in your cup. When you try to pass life through your rocky cup (soul) to someone else, it becomes tainted by the rocks (sin) that reside in it. What is the solution to this? Get rid of the rocks!!
What we try to do instead is, like Adam and Eve, fashion a cover for our souls. It would be the equivalent of using plastic wrap to cover the mouth of the cup. It is a man made attempt to cover the sin that resides in us. The only solution is to get the sin, or poison, out of our souls.
How do we do that?
We must understand that God has forgiven us, and we must forgive others. Matthew 18:21-35 tells the story of a man with much debt who is forgiven by the king he owes. When he leaves the king, haven just been forgiven, he runs into a man who owes him some money. Instead of forgiving the man who owes him, he demands payment. The man cannot pay and the just forgiven debtor turns his debtor over to the jailers until he can pay back his debt. The king learns about what happens and is not pleased. He calls the man back into his presence and tells him that since he did not forgive as he was forgiven, he too will be turned over to the jailers until his debt is repaid. One translation for "jailers" is "tormentors". The debtor is turned over to tormentors because of his unforgiveness.
The bad news is that it is impossible for us to forgive ourselves and others the way God asks us to on our own. The good news is that Christ can do it through us and in us through the power of the Holy Spirit. Until we allow him to do that, we will walk around with poison in our souls and we will spread that poison to those around us, including and especially our mate.
What rocks are in your cup? Who has put them there? Go to God now and ask Him to take the rocks from you. He says to cast our cares on Him because He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7).
Realize Christ has forgiven you and allow Him to empower you to forgive those who have sinned against you. Then you will be able to live in the freedom He created you for.